Anal play isn’t for everyone. BUT if you’re open to the idea, out with your autoblow, and it could change orgasms for you!
The male prostate is a small, walnut-shaped muscular gland located about two inches inside the anus that secretes seminal fluid found in ejaculation. It’s a hotbed of nerve endings and is one of the most potent male erogenous zones. For many men, having it stimulated is a substantial sexual turn-on that can make them orgasm. And for this, the prostate is referred to as the male G-spot, or “P-spot,” if you must.
Stimulating the prostate is a normal and healthy way to improve your sexual health while enjoying intense orgasms. This practice has been around since ancient times in Asian countries where milking the prostate was believed to increase male virility. Whether it worked or not is disputable, but one thing’s for sure: men enjoy having their P-spots played.
Who knew what fun lies in the backdoor? Now, if you’re ready to engage, read on.
Ready, Get Set
Finding the P-spot needs no map or GPS; often, all required are finger(s) and your capacity to get over yourself.
For starters, ask yourself what’s stopping you. Maybe having something up there doesn’t feel right. Perhaps you’re afraid of being called gay. Maybe you’re worried it’ll be painful. Any physical inconvenience is likely passing, so it’s the emotional discomfort you must combat. Once your hang-ups and fears are out the window, you may find that engaging this backdoor wonder can be all sorts of fun.
With proper prep, you can ace this experience whether you’re flying solo or on the giving or receiving end of things.
If you’re with a partner and you’re at the giving end, your best bet is to talk to them beforehand (yes, you need consent!). They have to know and agree to it before you stick a finger up their anus. You may bring it up outside the bedroom, over a romantic dinner, and tell them stimulating their prostate can trigger an intense orgasm, and see if they would be down to try it later on. Remember that open and honest communication is important.
When using a finger(s), there are several techniques and movements you can try upon insertion, such as the ‘come hither motion, doorbell, circling, and simulated vibration. Just an important reminder: Make sure to clean your hands, trim your nails, and use lube.
If they’re not comfortable with you using your fingers to penetrate their anus, you can stimulate their prostate from the outside by pressing on their perineum or the smooth strip of skin between the testicles and anus. The prostate is internally located between the base of the penis and anus, so touching outside that area can externally stimulate the gland.
If you’re on the receiving end and your partner has a penis, you can kick things up a notch with penis-in-anus penetration — prostate stimulation for you, penile stimulation for them, win-win.
If you’re playing with sex toys (a massager, strap-on, vibrator, or what-have-you), you can mix it up by playing with the different vibration settings, as well as pressure and depth.
It may take some practice and patience to orgasm through the P-spot, but once you find your groove and manage to have one, it can be fairly easy to reproduce. Just note that everybody is different, so feel free to experiment to see what feels good for you. Consent and safety are key, and once you’ve got that settled, you can get down to the fun part — trying out different moves and various positions, and experimenting with fingers, toys, and anything else that tickles your fancy.
Then Reap the Benefits
Beyond the utter pleasure of a prostate orgasm, engaging your P-Spot also has the following benefits:
- Some doctors recommend prostate massage therapy to alleviate symptoms of certain conditions, such as painful ejaculation. Fluid blockages in the male reproductive system can cause pain during ejaculation, and prostate massage can sometimes help eliminate these blockages.
- It may help prevent or even treat prostatitis (swelling of the prostate gland). Prostate swelling can put pressure on the urethra and interfere with urine flow. A prostate massage can help relieve some of the inflammation to improve urine flow.
- It may help relieve benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) symptoms. One review found lower urinary tract symptoms of BPH relieved by the use of a prostate massager.
- It is touted to help improve erectile dysfunction (ED) alongside other ED treatments, including medication and pump.
We all have erogenous zones that can take our orgasms to the next level. Anal or prostate play may not be in everyone’s bag, but if you’re willing to give it a try, the payoff may be an intense full-body orgasm.