Anal sex is an incredibly popular type of sex. However, many people are a little bit confused about what anal sex actually entails. A lot of people are more confused about what you can do when it comes to how to prepare for anal sex. This is why we have put together this guide. We want to walk you through exactly how to prepare for anal sex. We are going to share all of the details with you. Bad and good. This way you know what you are letting yourself in for during anal sex preparation.

Anal Sex Preparation:

Is Anal Sex Painful?


We aren’t going to be beating around the bush on this one. Anal sex is painful. It becomes a little bit easier to deal with over time, but there will always be a little bit of discomfort there. This isn’t to say that anal sex doesn’t feel good. It does. There is a reason why people are willing to agree to it. However, you do have to deal with a little bit of pain to get that pleasure.

There are ways that you can reduce the pain a little bit, and we shall share a few tips throughout this page as you learn about anal sex preparation. However, do not expect to eliminate the pain completely.

You have to remember that the anus is an exit hole. While it does have muscles, those muscles are only going to contract when something is coming out of the hole, not going into it. Those muscles have also only been designed to move for a few seconds at time before they fall back into place. So, if they are constantly stretched, you are going to be dealing with some pain.

There are some people that will claim that their anus will stretch over time as they have more anal sex. We suppose that this could be true to an extent, but it won’t stretch to the point where there is no pain. This would be an awful bodily function if that was the case. After all, the anus should not open too wide unless you are having a shit. Otherwise, you want that anus to be nice and closed up so you aren’t dealing with a bit of anal leakage!

Talk With Your Partner

Anal sex is one of those things that you will really, really have to talk to your partner about before you engage in it. It isn’t the sort of thing that you can randomly spring on somebody during sex. After all, not everybody likes it. If you have a partner, talk to them a few days or weeks before you want to try it.

Let them know that you are interested in anal sex. If they say that they are not interested, then leave them be. You should never force somebody to have anal sex, or guilt them into it. As the giver, you will be receiving a lot of pleasure. As the receiver, there will be some pleasure, but a lot of this will be masked by some pain.

By talking with your partner in advance, you will give them time to prepare for the actual act of anal sex. As you read through this page, you will notice that we give you a few recommendations to prepare for anal sex for the first time. In many cases, some of these preparations can take place a couple of weeks in advance or, at the very minimum, days in advance.

Use Condoms and Lube

You should always be using condoms during anal sex.

You have to remember that the anus is where bacteria finally leaves the body. If you pop your penis into it, then you are going to be getting bacteria all over your dick. This can cause an infection. Since the anus isn’t really self-cleaning like the vagina, you will also be dragging bacteria into it. Again, not a good thing.

Some people also do not like the feeling of having cum in their ass. It is tough to get out and, because the anus hasn’t been designed to hold cum, it will just seep out and it is really, really uncomfortable.

Lube should be pretty much a given´. The anus does not have any natural lubrication so you can’t really just put your dick in there. If you do, then you will end up causing a lot more pain than is necessary. Instead, get yourself a good water-based lube and use a lot of it. Anal sex will feel much better for everybody as a result.

Best Positions for Anal Sex

In our opinion, the key to having good anal sex is to choose the right position. Obviously, most normal sex positions are going to be out of the window here since you are going in from behind. However, this list of the best positions for anal sex should include a few that you are familiar with.

Lap dance

The lap dance sex position will have the giver sit on a chair or on the side of the bed. The receiver will then sit on them, facing away, much like a lap dance. The receiver will be able to control just how deep the penis goes. Since the giver can’t really thrust the penis up, there will be no unexpected surprises. This is a good position for newcomers because it does feel very similar to some of the positions that you may be familiar with when it comes to standard vaginal sex.


The spoon is a very sensual sex position. Here, the receiver will be facing away from the giver. They will almost be in a cuddling pose. The giver will then enter from behind.

This is a good position for newcomers to anal sex because the sensuality can really help somebody to relax. That being said, it is also an incredibly difficult position to get right if somebody has a rather large ass, or the giver is a bit too chunky. You won’t really be able to get close enough to one another to have proper anal sex, which is a shame.

Reverse Cowgirl

If you want anal sex, then you won’t be able to do the normal cowgirl without it causing a whole lot of discomfort. Thankfully, you can just turn the receiver around and you now have a reverse cowgirl.

Of course, this position will involve the receiver being on the top. Many people love this position when they are new to anal sex because it allows the receiver to control exactly how much they are penetrated by the penis. However, do bear in mind that if you are not in control, then the cock can go in quite deep and this is going to cause a lot of discomfort!

Tilted Doggy

We suppose that the best way to think of the tilted doggy is as a normal doggy style, but with the anus pointed at a bit more of an angle. This should make it a little bit easier to get inside. Obviously, the woman will have to be on her hands and knees to make this work. The giver can either be standing by the side of the bed or on the bed, although the .latter is probably going to be a bit more uncomfortable.

Standing Doggy

A standing doggy is a good position for those that find it a little bit difficult to get onto then hands on knees, which can be difficult if you have two people of drastically different heights, or two very tall people.

This position will involve the receiver bending over. They will often support themselves on a wall. The giver will then enter them from behind, just like in normal doggy style sex.

Many people find that this is one of the easiest positions to use if you are new to the world of anal sex. However, you may want to experiment to find what works for you.

Other Tips and Expectations

While the information that we included already on this page will be all that you really need for anal sex preparations, we figured that we would round off with a few more tips, plus some expectations that you should be setting yourself. After all, if you are going to learn how to prepare for anal sex, you need to know about all the details. not just the good stuff.

It may be dirty

Let’s be honest, we all know what the anus is for. It isn’t an entry hole. It is an exit hole, and what exits is literally filth. If you are sticking something in that hole, then you can expect there to be filth inside. Honestly, it doesn’t matter just how clean somebody tries to make their anus, there is always that risk. It is part of the reason why you should be wearing a condom.

So, how do porn stars manage to get their asses so clean? Well, through a lot of cleaning, often starting days beforehand with pills designed to clean out their insides, plus a lot of showering before the sex scene. Oh, and a whole lot of luck on top of this.

Try on yourself beforehand

Before you let somebody put their cock inside of your ass, we suggest that you try things out alone beforehand. This will allow you to get a feel for what your limits are. It may also let you know whether you are going to find anal sex enjoyable. Now, don’t get us wrong, most people are going to like anal sex, however, it is certainly not for everybody.

Many women and men find that by warming up their asses by themselves, they are stretching the area, which should make things a little bit easier when they have anal sex for real.

Use Toys

Sex toys are a great way for a pair to warm anuses up for anal sex. You can get butt plugs or smaller sex toys. It means that you still get that anal play, but you won’t be going right in with a cock. You will often warm yourselves up over the course of many weeks. It is really hot and, in our opinion, one of the best forms of foreplay. This is because you will have spent weeks and weeks playing with one another and, eventually, you are just going to do the deed and it is going to feel so fucking because of it.

This leads us neatly onto the next point.

Try Anal Foreplay

Before you put a cock inside, try a bit of anal foreplay. Just have the area teased with a tongue or finger. While you, obviously, cna’t get wet on your ass (and if the area does start to get wet, that isn’t a good sign!), it may help to warm up the area a little bit and encourage the loosening of the muscles.

Remember, anal foreplay is also going to stimulate a women’s vagina. This means that you will be able to use some of that natural lubrication for anal sex. Although, do not let it be a substitute for real lube.

Learn to Relax

Anal sex is probably going to be uncomfortable at the best of times, but if you don’t learn to relax to relax, then you are going to make things a whole lot more uncomfortable for yourself.

We suggest that people do a few booty exercises beforehand. Learn to relax the area (but not too much!) and anal sex will be so much better.

You may orgasm

A lot of people seem to think that because anal sex is uncomfortable that you can’t orgasm. You can. In fact, it is pretty common. This is because you are still putting pressure on the G-spot, albeit from a different angle. Many women, and men, find that they orgasm from anal sex alone, even if it does cause them a bit of pain. Some people even find that it is easier to orgasm through anal.

Do not go from anal to vaginal

If you are having anal sex and put the penis in the vagina right after, you are bringing bacteria into the vagina. This can cause UTIs and the like. Avoid it! Once you have had anal, you should never be going back into that vagina until your dick has been properly cleaned off. It doesn’t matter if your dick looks clean, we can promise you that it isn’t clean.

What to do afterward

With normal sex, you could probably have a bit of a kiss and a cuddle. Fall asleep in each other’s arms. Or, you could spend a little bit of time cleaning yourself up. After anal sex, you don’t really have the luxury to do any of that.

As soon as you have finished with anal sex, then the receiver needs to head into that bathroom and clean the area with some warm, soapy water. This will help to provide a little bit of pain relief. It will also help to remove all of that lube which you should, hopefully, have been using. If a little bit of poop did come out, then you will be washing that away too.

Now, in some cases, there will be a small amount of blood. This will likely occur if you are still new to the world of anal sex. This means that you will probably need to clean yourself up a little bit. The warm soapy water should remove some of the blood.

Don’t forget to actually clean the inside of the anus a little bit. you don’t have to go too deep, but a little finger and some warm, soapy water inside of you will work wonders.

The giver should probably want to clean their dick a little bit, even if they wore a condom. The anus is a haven for bacteria. That is the whole purpose of it. So, if you don’t want to run the risk of infection, then clean your dick.

Once all of this is done, you can finally fall into each other’s arms and relax. Or, if it is a one night stand, depart, never to speak again.

It is worth noting that some people will have anal pain for a few days after anal sex. If this is the case, just pop a painkiller or two. You may also want to be a bit more delicate when washing in the shower. There isn’t much that you can do about this. It normally happens during the first few times of having anal sex (when somebody doesn’t know how to relax their muscles properly) or if there is an especially large dick involved.


Anal sex isn’t going to be for everybody. There are some that will never be fans of it. However, you should try it out at least once. If you don’t like it, then at least you tried. Just make sure that you learn about how to do anal sex beforehand. That way you will know everything that you should be expecting from this type of sex, and you will know how to do it properly.


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